I’m Sheila Wray Gregoire, and I believe Jesus should make marriages better, not worse.

I’ve been writing and speaking about marriage and family since 2003, and specifically about sex since 2010. Over the years, I’ve been inundated with questions and comments from readers with the same problems popping up repeatedly. 

After almost ten years of trying to help people fix common problems with sex in marriage, I started to wonder–what if the problem isn’t a lack of good advice, but rather an abundance of bad advice? 

In January of 2019, I sat down and read Love & Respect, a best-selling evangelical marriage book, to see what it had to say. I was shocked and horrified. 

The best-selling Christian book that taught about sex did not once mention that sex was designed for women, too. Rather, it framed it as a male need, telling their female readers, “If your husband is typical, he has a need you don’t have.” 

I was so rattled at what I read in this book that I set out with two other women (my daughter and psychology graduate Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach and epidemiologist and statistician Joanna Sawatsky) to conduct the largest study ever done on evangelical women’s marital and sexual satisfaction. We discovered which common evangelical teachings about marriage and sexuality may actually make things worse, not better, and in The Great Sex Rescue, we reported our findings and pointed couples towards the freedom that God intended. 

My mission is to help the church realize the promise Christ gives us in John 10:10: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” For too long the church has acted more like the thief than the Shepherd.

It’s time to change the evangelical conversation about sex. 

It’s time for a Great Sex Rescue. 

Statement of Faith

Sheila and her team affirm the statements of belief in the Apostle’s Creed and the Nicene Creed, accept the Council of Nicea’s denouncement of Arian heresy and affirm the full sovereignty of Jesus Christ as a whole and equal member of the trinity.