Hi! I‘m Sheila Wray Gregoire…

And I love God, love marriage, and love my family.

I’m a speaker, a blogger, an award-winning author, and a wife and mom. I’m glad you’re here, and let me tell you a bit about each of these aspects of my life:

I’m a Speaker

I love speaking to women and encouraging them in authentic relationships with God, with their families, and with each other.

I’ve been speaking at women’s outreaches and retreats since 2003, and it’s one of the big callings on my life.

In fact, I love it so much that my husband and I recently purchased an RV, and we now spend a large part of our lives touring around North America, bringing my signature “Girl Talk: Straight Talk about Marriage, Sex and Intimacy” to churches everywhere (and hopefully near you!).

I also keynote at women’s retreats, and have spoken at denominational conventions for most major denominations in North America, including Wesleyan, Methodist, Alliance, Christian Reformed, Fellowship Baptist, Convention Baptist, Anglican, and more. For retreats, I share my message about learning to surrender and say that “God is enough”, as I share my story about rejection, losing a son, and getting a taste and glimpse of heaven.

Since 2004, my husband and I have also spoken together at FamilyLife Canada’s weekend retreats, and we’ve spoken at marriage retreats at churches as well.

If you have a need for a speaker, I’d love to help.

I’m a Blogger

You likely found me through my blog–To Love, Honor and Vacuum! That’s where most people first come across me, because my blog is rather large.

About 800,000 people land on my blog every month, and read almost 2,000,000 posts. I write primarily about marriage (and, yes, sex!), but I also have posts about faith and parenting, too.

What sets me apart, I think, is that I’m authentic. I share personal stories, but I also challenge the status quo that says that Christians have to look like we have it all together. The truth is that sometimes Christians give really pat answers about marriage (want him to be affectionate? Just learn his love language! Feel lonely? Just pray more! Is he not a spiritual leader? Respect him more! Is he watching porn? Have sex more!). And those pat answers don’t always work. I try to see beyond the pat answers to the messiness of marriage where Jesus wants to bring the gospel of true reconciliation into our marriages.

I’d love for you to join me!

I’m an Award-Winning Author

I write mostly about sex and marriage. That makes me kind of strange. But it’s awfully fun!

In fact, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex won the 2012 Grace Irwin Award for the Best Book Written by a Canadian Christian, one of the largest literary prizes in Canada.

I’m the author of a total of eight books, and am published by Zondervan and Waterbrook, among others.

My four main books are The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, 31 Days to Great Sex, 9 Thoughts That Can Change Your Marriage, and To Love, Honor and Vacuum.

I’m a Wife and a Mom

I’ve been married to my husband Keith for almost 25 years and happily married for about 21. We had a rough start. But God showed us a ton–and now I’m privileged to share that with others.

We have two wonderful daughters who both have ministries of their own. Rebecca, 21, is newly married and on track to do her doctorate in clinical psychology. In the meantime, she’s under contract with Thomas Nelson to write a book called “Why I Didn’t Rebel”, and she writes a blog at Life as a Dare.

Katie, 18, is a first year university student in marketing with a huge Christian YouTube channel.

And then we have Christopher, who is now in heaven. And who is a huge part of my testimony, and whose story has blessed countless others.

I was raised in Toronto by an amazing single mother who taught me to dream big but also to be responsible. She modeled caring for others and sharing what we have, and together she has been our matriarch, spearheading family missions trips to Kenya and fundraising and charity drives.

But growing up without my dad still left some major holes in my heart that marriage didn’t heal automatically. And because of that baggage Keith and I struggled when we first married. But God used those struggles to bring us closer together. Keith is a pediatrician, and the former head of Undergraduate Medical Education in Pediatrics at Queen’s University in Kingston, Ontario. We live in Belleville, Ontario, where we miss our daughters, text them constantly, and spend a lot of time birdwatching.

Oh, and I knit. Even in line at the grocery store.