Hi, I’m Sheila

Here’s a quick look at what I’m all about:

Public Speaker

I speak at women’s events, women’s conferences, church outreaches, marriage conferences internationally.


I’ve written seven books and counting, including award-winning book The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. I focus mostly on sex and marriage, but I also have one on grief.


I blog everyday at To Love, Honor, and Vacuum, one of the largest marriage blogs in North America, where I challenge pat Christian answers and offer real advice for the tough questions.

Family and Marriage Ministry

My ministry is to strengthen marriages through helping couples recognize God’s full blessings for them–including great sex!


I send out newsletters to a list of over 40,000 people. Mainly women, these newsletters are written to educate, encourage, and empower readers in their marriages and faith lives.

Wife and Mom

Family is my first priority, and the fuel for my ministry. I’ve been married for over 25 years, and we have a family of two grown girls, one baby boy in heaven, and two wonderful son-in-laws.

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Blog Posts

Books Written

Speaking Events

what are people saying about Sheila?

Sheila’s wit, humor, personal life experiences and Biblical perspective ministered to our multi-generational crowd of women and left us laughing and weeping at the feet of Jesus. God has gifted her with the ability to relate His Word in a way that’s easy to apply to how we live today. She gets down to the level where women really live. Laurie Shaffer

Director, Michigan Missionary Church Women, Summer 2010, Michigan Missionary Church

What makes me excited about listening to Sheila Wray Gregoire can be best described in the following words: real, vulnerable, passionate, committed, and yes, very funny. The question is not should you book Sheila but when, and now has been the answer for me for quite some time.

Eric Spath

Manger of Speakers & Events, World Vision Canada, Director of Girls Night Out events

“Wonderful talk!”
“Really practical!”
“I wish we had more time!”

Various Comments

Muskoka Baptist Conference “To Love, Honor and Vacuum” Workshop

Just wanted to thank you again for speaking at our GNO. Everyone left so happy and inspired. One lady dropped around the house the other day to pay for our Chick Flick Night Dinner and a Movie and she said when she arrived home she felt so high her husband had to sit up and take notice. He said ” what happened to you” She said “I had the most wonderful evening.” So thank you!


After Girls Night Out Event, Mississauga

“Well-versed and inspiring.”
“She explains things well so you can relate and understand them.”
“She laughs easily. Lovely charm!”
“Vivacious and Biblically gifted speaker and teacher.”

Various Comments

Women at the Well “Extreme Makeover” Conference, Fall 2009

“Very enlightening.”
“I came away with lots to think about–very practical!”

Various Comments

Hebron Christian Reformed Church Women’s Retreat, “Redeeming the Time”

I just want to say thank you so much for coming out and speaking to the MOPS Moms group. I got such great feedback from the moms – there were lots of e-mails and phone calls about how we can support each others to be the best parent we can be – we meet this week and they want to discuss what they have learned and how they can put it into practice. Again, thanks and blessings!


Leader of Mississauga MOPS Group, Michigan Missionary Church

Straight-shooting advice

Have you ever found that a lot of the church’s answers for really big problems tend to be, well, a little trite?

Sheila’s not afraid to tackle the

About Sheila

Hi! I’m Sheila Wray Gregoire, and I:

  • Speak at women’s events, women’s conferences, church outreaches, marriage conferences.
  • Write seven books and counting! Focusing mostly on marriage, but I also have one on grief. And I have a Chicken Soup for the Soul type book of my 90 favorite columns.
  • Blog everyday. Right here.

I love family. I love my family first and foremost, including my three children (one in heaven) and my husband. But I also love family because I believe that God made families as the primary vehicle to show His love. Probably part of this love stems from the fact that growing up, my family wasn’t healthy. My dad left when I was two, and I saw the damage that divorce does, even though my mom was amazing (and still is, as we take missions trips together!) So my passion in this life is to help strengthen families–to equip women to be the best wives and mothers they can be, and especially to cultivate marriages that are rock solid.

I don’t know exactly how I migrated from mostly talking about parenting and marriage to talking about sex, but sometime in the last five years I became the “sex lady”.  And so now I blog and write regularly about how to make sex awesome in marriage.

I love to speak, and if your church is looking for an interesting women’s event, my Girl Talk: Straight Talk on Marriage and Intimacy, is a ton of fun. But I also do general interest women’s retreats, too.

When I’m not working, you can usually find me at home, knitting. Even in line at the grocery store!

I send out newsletters once a month focusing on marriage, or parenting, or homeschooling. You can sign up for those HERE. And please like me on Facebook and Pinterest!

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Sheila Wray Gregoire is a popular speaker, marriage blogger, and the author of seven books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

She loves encouraging women in their relationships, both with God and with their husbands, children, and friends.

Her passion is for marriage, and she and her husband Keith speak together at marriage outreaches and at FamilyLife Canada marriage conferences.

Sheila believes in authenticity, and gives real solutions to the very real and messy problems women, and couples, can face.

When she’s not working you will probably find her knitting. Even in line at the grocery store.

Popular blogger and speaker, and award-winning author Sheila Wray Gregoire loves encouraging women to grow in their relationships, both with God and with their husbands, kids, and friends. The author of seven books, including How Big Is Your Umbrella, Sheila mixes humor and real-life stories to help women deal with the messy problems many of us face. She is the 2012 winner of the top literary prize for Canadian Christian books for The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, and her blog, To Love, Honor and Vacuum, is one of the top 25 Mom blogs on the web.

Growing up the only child of a single mother, she learned two things quickly: God is close to those who are lonely, and marriage is a sacred thing. The void that she felt in her early life has been transformed into a passion to help women find their worth first in Christ, and then to make their relationships mirror His. With her trademark humour and light touch, Sheila is able to drive home scriptural truths in a challenging yet inviting way.

Shortly after moving to Belleville, Ontario, when her girls were young, Sheila began writing for magazines. In 2003, her first book, To Love, Honor and Vacuum was published, followed rapidly by several more. She began to speak all over North America, keynoting at national denominational events, such as the Coffee Break conference and the Baptist Women’s convention, and leading workshops at large conferences like the MOPS convention and at BreakForth. She also speaks at women’s outreaches and retreats, sharing her story of finding God even in the darkest times. These don’t just include rejection as a child, but also walking through the horrible valley of losing a son. Through it all, Sheila learned that God is enough, a message she desperately wants other women to cling to and understand.

Sheila’s background includes two Master’s degrees from Queen’s University, with one in Sociology and the other in Public Administration. Her real education, though, has come as she has learned to be a wife to Keith, a busy pediatrician, and mother to Rebecca and Katie. Sheila and Keith love homeschooling their children, taking them on mission trips, and building a strong family rooted in Christ. Sheila is one of the few people in her immediate family who is not actually a physician, so she spends her life in doctor circles, on medical missions trips, and medical conferences. But she still faints at the sight of blood.

And she knits. Even in line at the grocery store.

Thanks for agreeing to host a Girl Talk! We’re excited to partner with you. To make it easier, we thought we’d share “Best Practices” from other churches and groups that have hosted a Girl Talk.


We know it can be tempting to want to offer the event for free. You certainly don’t want money to be a factor in whether or not women attend.

But what we have consistently found is that churches that charge for the event get more people–and the people are more engaged.

First, let us share with you a large scale experiment Sheila was involved in. For several years Sheila headlined at the Girls Night Out events produced by World Vision Canada. They were evening events held at local churches for the women in the community. For the first few years they charged nothing, but often found that by giving the tickets away they had no idea how many women would actually show up. It wasn’t unusual to only get 50% attendance based on number of tickets in circulation.

They decided to try to charge $5 to help defray some costs. All of a sudden up to 90% of women who had tickets showed up–and attendance didn’t drop, either. In some cases it even increased because people value what they pay for.

Within a few years they increased the price to $10 a ticket, again to defray costs, and found that the extra $5 made no difference. They still had roughly equivalent attendance to when they charged $5. So whether you charge $5 or $10 you get the same number of people–but $10 defrays more costs.

With Girl Talk, several churches have tried to offer it for free, and in some cases organizations have wanted to underwrite the event. However, this can backfire because when you give away tickets, people are less likely to come.

What we suggest: Charge $10 a ticket. If a sponsor wants to underwrite the event, have them instead offer gifts totalling $10 each, like a romantic gift bag for each woman with candles, oil, and even some promotional materials inside. You’ll find you get higher attendance and a more accurate count of how many women are actually coming.


One of the challenges of planning an event is knowing how many will show up. After all, you have to plan for food!

Using a Two-Tier price structure can help you get more accurate numbers. Today it’s hard to get people to commit to an event more than a week in advance, and many would rather buy tickets at the door.

If you give a discount for buying tickets early, though, you overcome part of this problem.

You could charge $10 a ticket, or $12 at the door, and you’ll get a more accurate count early.


In Seminole, Texas, a MOPS group that normally gets 70 women in a morning ended up with 400 women at the event in the evening. In Lafayette, Louisiana, with only 3 weeks notice, a group that gets 40 in the morning had 90 in the evening.

Girl Talk is a really easy sell. People WILL come out to hear a talk on sex–absolutely.

If you have a regular meeting in the morning hosting an evening event can seem daunting. But it does work. And there’s a lot more energy when you meet in the evenings for a special event than if Sheila just walks into your regular morning meeting. It ends up being more fun for everyone!

Consider joining with the women’s ministry at the church, or ask other MOPS groups to go together with you to host a community-wide Girl Talk.


In San Antonio, Texas, one follower of Sheila’s blog really wanted to host a Girl Talk. But her church wasn’t big enough.

So she contacted the women’s ministry directors at two other area churches and the three churches went in together.

  • One church did the decorations.
  • One church did the food.
  • And one church did the ticketing/administration/coordination

It worked wonderfully! The turnout was almost 300 women from 3 medium-sized churches, but all churches had fully bought into the event and promoted it to their congregations and their neighborhoods.

And because each church was responsible for one area, it was easy to split up the work.


If you want the women from other churches to attend your event, asking other churches to buy in in some way will help. Ask another church to take on the responsibility for one area–like the food or the decorations–and then you’ll have more people excited about it!


You don’t have to be elaborate! Some churches have gone all out and some have just done a little bit.

Because I have worked closely with FamilyLife Canada, I am using their statement of faith as my own, since I like it and I signed it when I went on board with them! Here is their statement of faith, which I endorse wholeheartedly:

FamilyLife Canada Statement of Faith

The sole basis of our beliefs is the Bible, God’s inerrant written Word, the 66 books of the Old and New Testaments. We believe that it was uniquely, verbally and fully inspired by the Holy Spirit, and that it was written without factual error in the original manuscripts. It is the supreme and final authority in all matters on which it speaks.

We accept those large areas of doctrinal teaching on which, historically, there has been general agreement among all true Christians. Because of the specialized calling of our movement, we desire to allow for freedom of conviction on other doctrinal matters, provided that any interpretation is based upon the Bible alone, and that no such interpretation shall become an issue which hinders the ministry to which God has called us. We explicitly affirm our belief in basic Bible teachings as follows:

1. There is one true God, eternally existing in three persons – the Father, Son and Holy Spirit – each of whom possesses equally all the attributes of Deity and the characteristics of personality.

2. Jesus Christ is God, the living Word, who became flesh through His miraculous conception by the Holy Spirit and His virgin birth. Hence, He is perfect Deity and true humanity united in one person forever.

3. He lived a sinless life and voluntarily atoned for our sins by dying on the cross as our substitute, thus satisfying divine justice and accomplishing salvation for all who trust in Him alone.

4. He rose from the dead in the same body, though glorified, in which He had lived and died.

5. He ascended bodily into heaven and sat down at the right hand of God the Father, where He, the only mediator between God and mankind, continually makes intercession for His own.

6. We were originally created in the image of God. We sinned by disobeying God; thus, we were alienated from our Creator. That historic fall brought all mankind under divine condemnation.

7. Our nature is corrupted, and we are thus totally unable to please God. Every person is in need of regeneration and renewal by the Holy Spirit.

8. Our salvation is wholly a work of God’s free grace and is not the work, in whole or in part, of human works or goodness or religious ceremony. God imputes His righteousness to those who put their faith in Christ alone for their salvation, and thereby justifies them in His sight.

9. It is the privilege of all who are born again of the Spirit to be assured of their salvation from the very moment in which they trust Christ as their Saviour. This assurance is not based upon any kind of human merit, but is produced by the witness of the Holy Spirit, who confirms in the believer the testimony of God in His written Word.

10. The Holy Spirit has come into the world to reveal and glorify Christ and to apply the saving work of Christ to men and women. He convicts and draws sinners to Christ, imparts new life to them, continually indwells them from the moment of spiritual birth and seals them until the day of redemption. His fullness, power and control are appropriated in the believer’s life by faith.

11. We, as believers, are called to live in the power of the indwelling Spirit so that we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh but will bear fruit to the glory of God.

12. Jesus Christ is the Head of the Church, His Body, which is composed of all men and women, living and dead, who have been joined to Him through saving faith.

13. God admonishes His people to assemble together regularly for worship, for participation in ordinances, for edification through the Scriptures and for mutual encouragement.

14. At physical death the believers enter immediately into eternal conscious fellowship with the Lord, and await the resurrection of their bodies to everlasting glory and blessing.

15. At physical death the unbelievers enter immediately into eternal conscious separation from the Lord and await the resurrection of their bodies to everlasting judgment and condemnation.

16. Jesus Christ will come again to the earth – personally, visibly and bodily – to consummate history and the eternal plan of God.

17. The Lord Jesus Christ commanded all believers to proclaim the gospel throughout the world and to disciple men and women of every nation. The fulfillment of that Great Commission requires that all worldly and personal ambition be subordinated to a total commitment to “Him who loved us and gave Himself for us.

Without mental reservation, we subscribe to the above statements and pledge ourselves to help fulfill the Great Commission in our generation, depending upon the Holy Spirit to guide and empower us.


Speaking FAQs

What types of events does Sheila speak at?

Sheila has spoken at many different types of events.

Generally she delivers the keynote address at conferences, or speaks at retreats. She also speaks at outreach events, evening events at churches, and workshops.

Generally Sheila speaks to Christian women, but she has also given addresses at Rotary Clubs, Sorority Clubs, and parenting groups. She also speaks frequently to homeschooling organizations.

Together with her husband Keith, she also teaches at marriage conferences.

Does Sheila speak at US and international events?
Sheila speaks extensively across all of North America, and welcomes all speaking requests.

The only limiting factor is the travel costs. If venues are willing to pay for Sheila’s travel, she’s certainly eager to consider the events.

Most of Sheila's books have to do with marriage or motherhood. Many in our group are not married, or no longer have children at home. Will Sheila still be relevant?
Sheila knows that women are at all different stages of life, and endeavours in her presentations to be sensitive to all. When speaking to larger groups, she tends to focus more on how we can ensure that we’re journeying towards Christ, and not away from Him, rather than focusing solely on family.
We have a theme for our event, and it's not really in the list of Sheila's topics. Will she accommodate us?
Sheila is happy to work with churches or committees who have a theme in mind for their retreat. However, due to the time involved in prayer and Bible study to prepare completely new talks, Sheila limits these types of requests. Therefore, we ask that you let Sheila know what topic you would like at the time of booking.
We're happy to let Sheila pray about it and choose the topic herself. Is that okay?
Sheila is happy to give groups a shorter list of topics after hearing about the group’s demographics and recent activities. However, she would prefer that the event organizers choose the topic, since they are more familiar with the audience and know what they would like more.
What are Sheila's fees?
Sheila’s fees are set depending upon the type of event and the distance she has to travel. If you would like to know specifics, you can fill out her booking form or email Sheila’s booking agent and someone will get back to you so that you can discuss fees. Her fees are set taking into account the amount of preparation that goes into each event, the amount of time away from her family, and the time spent at the event.
Are there other expenses involved?
We ask that the event committee cover:

– All of Sheila’s travel expenses

– Including mileage at 50 cents a km, or airfare where applicable.

– Because Sheila lives two hours from an airport, mileage and parking will have to be charged on top of airfare.

– When an overnight stay is necessary, we ask for Sheila’s meals and hotels to be reimbursed.

We would like to save on expenses by having Sheila stay in a private home. Is this okay?
In general, Sheila prefers to stay in hotels, especially the evening before the event. She needs quiet time to pray, reflect, and prepare, and when staying in a home often the social demands can be disruptive. If an overnight stay is necessary after an event, Sheila is happy to accommodate her sleeping arrangements as best suits the group.
Which airport does Sheila fly out of?
When traveling within Canada, Sheila flies out of Pearson airport in Toronto.

If traveling in the United States, Sheila is happy to fly out of the Syracuse, New York airport if this saves on airfare.

Can we know Sheila's other expenses before the events?
When Sheila books an event, she will send you a letter of understanding which will include her anticipated expenses, including mileage, meals and hotels.

If a speaking event requires Sheila to leave the house before 7:00 a.m. in order to arrive at the venue, Sheila will request a hotel for the evening before so she won’t be too tired at the event.

Because of traffic, this means that events in the Toronto or Ottawa area must start after 10:30 a.m. in order for Sheila to not need a hotel the night before, and a flight must leave after 11:00 a.m.

We're a small church and we can't really afford Sheila's fees. Do you have any suggestions?
If you want to host an event and have her come to speak, one idea is to band together with the churches in your area and put on an event together. Sheila’s Girl Talk presentation has gone over very well in the communities where she has held it, and churches who invite others from outside the church often find a higher attendance than with most women’s events.

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