Every woman can have great sex in her marriage!

Sheila’s the Christian Dr. Ruth!

Sharol Josephson
Sharol JosephsonCo-Executive Director, FamilyLife Canada

Do bad girls really have more fun? Surveys say no. The women who are most likely to enjoy sex are married and religious. In other words, they’re Good Girls!

But good girls know that making sex great isn’t about acting trashy. It’s about recognizing what God really designed sex for, and then learning how to reap all these benefits and joyfully enjoy your husband.

Frank and contemporary, The Good Girls’ Guide to Great Sex will give the newly engaged and new brides—and some veteran wives—a Christian resource to answer their most intimate, and embarrassing, questions. In a conversational style, with lots of humorous anecdotes, the book will show that sex isn’t just physical: it’s also an emotional and spiritual experience. And we’ll learn why commitment in a Christian marriage is the perfect recipe for a sex life which is out of this world!

Here‘s What You’ll Get

  1. You’ll get answers to all those questions you wished you could ask a friend–but were embarrassed to!

    Sheila answers all those questions that every woman has, from how things are supposed to work to what to do when they don’t. Nothing is off limits!

  2. You’ll feel like you’re chatting with a friend.

    While other books on sex from a Christian standpoint are often written by men or by couples, Sheila’s chatty. And she’s a woman. And she GETS you.

  3. You’ll get hope that sex CAN be great–even if kids are hanging off of you all day.

    If sex has become blah, or has never been that great (or even if you’re nervous about your upcoming wedding), Sheila will give you hope that you can experience tremendous fun but also tremendous intimacy in the bedroom with your husband.

Sheila writes like a funny big sister!

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What’s in the Book?

  • First understand the big picture: Why God make sex the way He did–and why He made men and women so differently!
  • Next, a chapter especially for engaged women with questions about the honeymoon & the marriage (whether they’re virgins or not)
  • Then, the three big areas of intimacy: Physical, Spiritual, and Emotional. All go into a great sex life! Sheila spends one chapter telling how to make things go right, and one chapter telling how to fix problems that come up for each of the three areas of sexual intimacy.
  • Answers to your questions on what’s okay to do in the bedroom–and what should be avoided.
  • Everything you wanted to know about what OTHER people think–the complete survey results of the research that Sheila did with 2000 women, rated their sex life, their honeymoon, and more!

Filled with lots of information, practical advice, and scriptural backing, Sheila helps you understand why God make sex the way He did, and how you can experience true fulfillment with your husband.

Don’t Miss These Special Features!

A Good Girl Speaks

Throughout the book, Sheila shares nuggets of wisdom from her survey respondents that will make you laugh–and help you feel like you’re not alone.

Good Girl Dares

Want to spice things up a little, but you’re not sure where to start? Try some of Sheila’s Good Girl Dares, sprinkled throughout the pages!

Jennifer Jennings

I wish I had had this book earlier!

I just got done reading this book and I loved it. No one is my family ever talked about this kind of thing and I was completely clueless for my honeymoon and early marriage years. After reading this book, I was able to use all of the advice to help my sexual relationship with my husband. He was thrilled! I wish someone would have been this open with me before I got married. I love how the author backed up her advice with all the research and data she had been collecting over the years. If you are embarrassed about anything concerning your sexual relationship, I recommend that you pick up this book and read all the way through it. Well done!

Jennifer JenningsAmazon Review
Amazon Customer

You would think that after 30 years of marriage I would not be shocked about sex. You would think I would “know enough” or “know it all”. I mean, how many ways can you do it anyway? Forget I said that, because Sheila Wray Gregoire the author of The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex will not only tell you the many ways, she will tell them in very descriptive detail. I am over 50 years old and I was blushing as I read this book! However, at the same time I was laughing my head off at her humorous way of getting to the subject at hand.

This book is perfect to give to someone who is about to get married and has never had sex before. It’s even perfect for someone who has been married a long time like me.

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Maxine Holmes

Yeah, finally!

Unfortunately, the churches of the past and present have misguided both men and women about getting knowing their bodies and the functions resulted misinformation. And boring sex lives.

Ms. Gregoire does an extraordinary job of sharing the wonders and joy of sexual pleasure between two people totally committed within the bond of marriage. She explains how to give pleasure and how to receive it. Making love and totally letting with each other is a holy, glorious act to be celebrated. In my opinion as a church-going woman I believe The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex should be a part of every mother’s/ female guardian’s library and discussed in it entirety periodically before girls enter into the dating realm.

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Who will benefit from this book?

Newlyweds Who Want to Start Well

Worried about your honeymoon? Sheila talks about what to expect–in detail. But what if you’re not a virgin? Or you’ve got tons of baggage? Sheila helps you work through that, too, so that you can start your marriage fresh with a ton of excitement! Best of all, Sheila teaches you how to just relax, and not to get too uptight about what should, or shouldn’t, happen right when you get married

Young Married Women

Things not working as they’re supposed to? Are you wondering what all the fuss is about? Sheila helps you see sex in a new way–as something which is not just physical, but also emotional and spiritual, too. And she helps you figure out how to make things work more like clockwork in the bedroom, too!

Women With Questions

If you grew up thinking sex was dirty or bad, and wonder if you can ever actually anticipate sex, you need this book! Or perhaps you have questions about whether or not God can help you get over the baggage in your past–or your husband’s past. The Good Girl’s Guide has answers.

This book is a must read for young virginal brides but it’s even more beneficial for women like me. I’ve been married for ten years and struggling with the idea that sex is shameful or dirty. This book has helped me to understand what a healthy Godly marriage should look like. This book along with prayer has helped tp reprogram my brain and bring new life to my marriage. I’d say that $10 for a book is much cheaper than a life time of therapy.

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Don’t settle for blah in the bedroom, when God created you for more!

But What if We Have Problems?

That’s okay! Everybody has something they struggle with–and Sheila tries to tackle the most common ones, like:

      • What if my husband struggles with porn (or what if I struggle with fantasy?)
      • What if my husband has a low libido?
      • Why can’t I reach orgasm?
      • Why am I never in the mood?
      • What do I do if sex hurts?
      • How do I get over my sexual baggage?
      • How do we decide on boundaries when he wants me to do something I don’t like?
      • How can we spice things up?

You’ll find that no matter your issue, you are not alone!

It’s an Award Winner!

The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex is the winner of the Grace Irwin Award for 2012 for the best book by a Canadian from a Christian worldview. It’s one of the top literary prizes in North America, and this little sex book walked away with it! The judges said: “it’s such a needed book that all wives will want to read!”


Reader Response

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It has a majority of 5 star reviews at each site!

Here are just a few:



I’ve been married for nearly 17 years and wish I had this book on Day 1!

BeckyAmazon Review

This is a wonderful book! …She knows how to talk about such sensitive topics, and add humor, honesty, and most importantly from a Biblical view!

ChrisAmazon Review
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Have cried most my way through this book as I realize how my upbringing, having babies and what the world tells me about sex have deeply influenced how I view my intimate relationship with my husband. I believe this is a must read for every woman.

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And here’s a note from a very happy reader:


We’ve been married almost 26 years, and we’ve always had an active, happy sex life. We have six children, and throughout our years raising them, we’ve been intimate consistently at least 3-4 times per week. I’m convinced this is a big reason why we are still in love and strongly attached to each other, when people all around us are getting divorced–or worse. Our sex life is a healing bond like no other, and it’s a huge blessing to us.

That said, some time last year, we weren’t exactly in a rut, but…here’s the thing. I get up at 5 am every weekday to teach a Bible study class to a group of teenagers at our church. When I was young, I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, so sleep is especially crucial for my health. Therefore, despite our very busy life, we do our best to have the lights out at 10pm.

And at some point late last year, my husband brought up very gently that he felt like we were hitting a rut and rushing things too often. He said he felt ridiculous about complaining, since he knows how good he’s got it, but he wanted there to be some times that he didn’t feel so rushed. I prayed over this for a day or so and then truly felt that I got inspiration from on high.

We already have a super consistent Date Night on Fridays, but I decided that after the more public part of our date, I’d arrange something special. Candles, flowers, and a super clean bedroom and bathroom would be the minimum.

I needed ideas about what to do next, but I wanted them to be appropriate, not sleazy. When I googled “hot Christian married sex,” your book came up. I ordered it right away and read it in one sitting when it arrived. It was perfect, and gave me everything I needed to plan our special nights. I’ve also subscribed to your blog posts, which are always full of great information and inspiration.

So, when we get home from the movies or dinner, or whatever, we might take a bath, or give each other back or foot rubs, or read the Song of Songs to each other—I tried to have some interesting surprises in store. But the main rule has been that things could go on for as long as he wanted, with no pressure to finish up. Most Saturdays, we can sleep in, so I don’t feel that pressure that I do on weekdays.

And this year has been AMAZING. I can’t remember when I came up with the code phrase “Friday Night Lights,” but sometimes, one of us will just text “FNL” to the other around Thursday or so, and it gives us both a little thrill of anticipation. While I don’t come up with something new every time, we’ve found a lot of favorites that haven’t gotten old yet. Our sex life has gone from great to magnificent, and we’ve found a level of profound contentment that we didn’t even know was possible. I’m grateful to God for such a good man, and for you and all your help, Sheila. Thanks for the great work you do in your special ministry.

L.P.Blog Reader

Sheila Says…

It’s my prayer that God will use this book to help marriages thrive!

I really struggled in this area of my marriage for years, and I know what it is to be confused, despondent, and wondering what all the fuss is about. But things have really turned around for me, and they can for you, too.

This SHOULD be a fun part of your marriage. If it’s not, please read the book. Your marriage will thank you!