“To Love, Honor and Vacuum is a breath of fresh air”

I’m going to start with reviews from regular moms–because they’re people like you! Then we’ll move to media reviews:

“I have just finished reading your wonderful book “To Love, Honor and Vacuum” and it has made me feel so much better about being a stay-at-home mom and now a homeschooling mom too. It has made me appreciate my husband even more and has made me feel more positive about what I do for the first time in ages. Thank you! ”

Yvonne, January 2010


I was grabbed from the start…I think Ms. Gregoire has been peeking 
in my windows! If you’ve ever felt drained from living your very
dream of having a home and family of your very own, this book will
open your eyes. Mothers feel guilty for feeling overwhelmed by life,
but in To Love, Honor, AND Vacuum, we find ways around that. This is a “must read” for any woman who has wondered why she doesn’t derivepure joy from her role as Domestic Goddess!”
Mia Cronan, MainStreetMom.com


My Mom’s group at church is going to read and discuss your book, “…to love, honor and vacuum” and I have started to read it early and I’m finding that I can’t put it down!!! I am starting to think you wrote this book for me! Thank you for writing this book. It is an inspiration to me and it helps me feel NORMAL! I am a stay at home mom of 2 girls, age 4 1/2 and 14 months. I have even read a few paragraphs to my husband, followed with the comment “SEE!! I’m NOT crazy!!”

Thank you for helping put my “job” into perspective. I’m looking forward to trying out the techniques in your book in order to get my life back together and feel more like a MOM and not a maid!!!

Stephanie, Iowa


I just finished “To Love, honor and vacuum” and must say this is the BEST book I’ve read as a wife and mother to date. I needed this 5 years ago, but am so blessed by it now”

Sandy, Littleton, Colorado


I have just finished reading your book, and I just wanted to comment on how wonderful it is. There is so much information in there that I know we as parents will benefit from. We just started taking a parenting class during the Sunday School hour at our church, and I am highly going to recommend your book as reading material

Patricia, Cobourg


I have to say I’ve just read your book To Love, Honor and Vacuum, and it has really spoken to me. In fact, I’ve ordered another because I know I’ll be giving this book to a lot of my friends. The funny thing is, I’d just read another book about a woman’s role and it had me so despondent and feeling trapped. I know God led me to order your book from the Biblical Parenting Institute because He knew I’d need the wisdom and encouragement and challenge you offer. When I got to the end of the book and saw your website I was delighted to see you have more books!

Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! I recommend this book without reservation! As a wife, grad student, and new mother, it seemed my joy in life was getting lost in exhaustion. I have a great husband, an exceptionally “easy” baby, supportive grandparent-care, and flexible hours…and I was still running out of steam. Reading this book may not have changed what I have to accomplish in a day, but it refreshed my perspective. In this book, Sheila Gregoire gave me encouragement, specific and useful tips on how to simplify and prioritize life, and (perhaps what I needed most) sympathy coupled with hope. Sometimes all I need is someone to tell me that “yes, it IS hard!! But you’re doing okay.”

As an example, the day after I finished reading the book, I still had to: get everyone ready for the day, express milk, work all day in the lab, go to the gym, come home, do laundry, cook dinner, wash the dishes, pick up the house, entertain my 6-month old while doing all of this, feed and bathe the baby, put her to bed, express more milk, start another load of laundry… But this time, I did all of my morning chores with some fun music on, had lunches ready from the night before, took care of my evening housework with a timer on to finish in a hurry, and had time to go for a walk around the neighborhood with my daughter and my dog while the casserole was in the oven. It was one of the best days I’ve had in a very long time, although almost nothing besides my attitude (and a few organizational tips) had changed! I even had enough energy left to get romantic with my husband (and I can tell you, he appreciated it!).

Review on Jesus Reigns Forever: “Exactly what I needed, new mom encouragement”

After reading many discouraging marriage books full of half truths, “To Love, Honor and Vacuum” is definitely a breath of fresh air. This book is not a doormat manual like others. Sure, it is aimed at helping us be good wives, but this book does not do what others do, blaming the woman for all the marriage problems. It helps women where they are at, realizes that sometimes husbands can be jerks, and how to live your life so that you are doing right but are not burnt out.

I felt that this book was enabling to me as a woman, while it seems that other authors think that I should be walked all over just because I’m a woman. There is very good Biblical and practical advice, including how to do things to get your husband to respect you.

This is one marriage book I can actually recommend, and I gladly do so.

AussieMama Book Reviews


Media Reviews


“If there are days when you would still say, “I do” to your husband but long to say, “I don’t” to the Mt.Everest of laundry and the spaghetti sauce spitting all over your stove than this book is for you. Filled with spiritual wisdom and practical tips for setting your home in order by first getting yourself together, Sheila Wray Gregoire gently leads women back to the Source of all life, and reminds us that the chaotic, rushed lives we are leading need not be so. Her tips on child rearing, home organization and marriage are rooted in scripture and easily transplanted into our own homes. A whole new kind of home and family life can blossom. What a relief!”
Karen Stiller – Associate Editor of Faith Today magazine, freelance writer and editor, mother of three

“Ms. Gregoire’s friendly style makes her words feel like a long letter from a caring mentor, rather than a textbook full of advice”
Janet Sketchley, Atlantic Baptist

“I loved the title of this book, and the minute I started reading it, I felt like there was someone who knew just how I feel some days!”

“Reading this book provides a stimulus to do practical things to make life happier for everyone”
Christian Observer

“Gregoire’s enthusiasm, real-life examples, and emphasis on healthy relationships will encourage women”
Kristine Wilson, CBA Marketplace

“Gregoire recognizes that for many women, housework isn’t just housework. It’s a source of deep anxiety, stress and friction, but it doesn’t have to be that way. If housework is driving you insane, you aren’t alone.”
San Diego Family

“To Love, Honor and Vacuum is full of helpful, practical ideas any mom can use.”
Living Light News

“TO LOVE, HONOR, AND VACUUM strikes me as one of the best books I’ve read in a long time.”
Lisa Ann Cockrel, FaithfulReader.com.

“This book should be required reading for the adult responsibilities classes in high schools across the country.”
Crystal Warren Miller, Montgomery‘s Journal


Purchase autographed from Sheila (slightly more money, slower shipping from Canada)
Purchase from Amazon

Purchase a 45 minute talk by Sheila based on the book:

Purchase an audio download of the talk


Online Book ClubOnline Book Club

Heart of the Matter is hosted an online book club for To Love, Honor and Vacuum!

Here with the links from our time talking about To Love, Honor and Vacuum. So sit back and read along!

Chapter 1: Change

Chapter 2: One Step Forward, Two Steps Back

Chapter 3: This Ain’t My Momma’s House

Chapter 4: Balancing Tipped Scales

Chapter 5: Relationship U-Turns

Chapter 6: The Family That Cleans Together

Chapter 7: Don’t Just Sit There, DO Something!

Chapter 8: Kids Spell Love: T I M E