You know that saying, “The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing?”.
Or, another way to look at it, “major on the majors; minor on the minors.”
Too often in our homes we major on the minors. We concentrate on cleaning and laundry and looking like we have it all together and don’t focus on God, and relationships, and the things that ultimately matter.
So let’s talk today about how to “major on the majors”.
Here’s what Lori, who’s running the book club, says to start off:
This week as we make our way through the book, we are looking at “Balancing Tipped Scales.”
I had to laugh out loud. It’s in the first paragraph of this chapter that Sheila speaks of, “sitting down relaxing, you may stare off into space and, in the process, notice that your walls need cleaning.” HA! It’s not the walls that I noticed in a recent “relaxation” moment, but rather the glass on the front door. The sun was shining in so perfectly that it ENHANCED its desperate need to be cleaned! I could mind you, clean from dusk to dawn. Dusting, mopping, wiping, Swiffering, but I will certainly not be any happier, right?
We all want contentment really. How can we balance those scales that tend to tip us in the direction of constant cleaning? SCHEDULES, is what Sheila suggests. Schedules will ultimately free us from the “bondage” of housework. It will free us to explore the other gifts and talents that God has so generously bestowed on us. Not to use them is a waste.
The New Priorities Model
What exactly is the “New Priorities Model?”
Shelia suggests that if we begin “block at least fifteen minutes throughout the week in three different renewing areas- two from “Relationship Care,” two from “Personal Care,” and two from “Spiritual Care,” then we will begin to see a balance approach to our lives. (page 71)
Now I know that scheduling may be the last thing that you want to do. Does that make it sound like I’m making you even more into a drill sergeant than anything else?
But that’s not the aim. Instead, I think it’s liberating.
Here’s the point: if we don’t schedule stuff in that’s important first, it won’t get done. If you decide that at some point today you’re going to read your Bible, you won’t. Something will always get in the way.
If you say to yourself, sometime this week I will go to the gym, you won’t. There will never be a free moment.
If you say, “I will play a game with my child this week when things are quiet”, you won’t. And then you’ll feel guilty about it afterwards.
Do you see what I mean?
And if you don’t do these important things, you’re going to start to feel very exhausted. Because it’s these important things that feed our souls. When we’re not caring for ourselves, and caring for our relationships, but we’re only caring for our homes, we’re never going to feel fulfilled.
Major on the majors.
Read the rest of what Lori wrote here.